This tongue-in-the-cheek inference that ‘Denial is NOT a River in Egypt’ certainly caught my attention!
It simultaneously made me reflect on the fact that denial certainly must be one of the most powerful ‘emotional currents’ – with its ‘eb and flow’ creating a strong force that causes us to shrink our dreams and wallow in our fears!
I say this in relation to one of the Four Laws of Success (as cited by Kulin Desai in his book, Believe & Achieve), namely the Law of Attraction.
The LAW OF ATTRACTION has two parts:
- Wanting something, and
- Having it
And it is in ‘having it’ that DENIAL certainly trips us up! …
…because denial makes us blind to the fact that, whatever you want, requires ACTION!
YOU CAN ONLY GET SOMETHING IF YOU ACTUALLY MOVE TOWARDS IT, RIGHT?!
I recall a conversation I had overheard one day – when someone said to a manager of a company, “I really would love to have that job that you advertised… what do you think my chances are of getting it?” The manager’s response was simply, “Well, if you want to stand a chance, you need to apply for it!”
You may ask, ‘Why is it that we often lack the courage to act in reaching our goals?’
Well, we often refrain from acting due to our negative mindsets that may have evolved into a habitual lack of self-belief. We start believing that we are not capable or not good enough to carry out what we need to … and, if we don’t believe that we CAN, then we CAN’T!
This spurs us to have negative expectations, which in turn makes us ‘small on action’ … causing us to start shrinking our dreams!
I quote Upanishads:
“Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; for it becomes your destiny.”
How do we change / shift from negative to positive expectations so that we start moving (acting) towards our goals?
We simply knock the ‘T’ off CAN’T!
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